Whether it’s a relationship, marriage or a new job it is never easy to start over.
Where do you even go from here?
Back down the ladder instead of almost to the top?
Life is full of the unknown and the obstacles are always going to hinder you at some point.
It’s how you approach the issues that are failing you. You have two options: stay and rise or fall and parish.
We need to stay positive and put the past behind us .. Hakuna Matata…It means, no worries!
Have you been in a long term committed relationship and things are looking stormy?
Maybe you share a home or a car.
How do you move on, how do you let go?
How to move on..
- Accept the truth. Your relationship is over. The sooner you accept that fact, the sooner you can move on with your new life.
- Hang out with friends. Be proactive and ask your friends for help.
- Do something. Try to avoid spending tons of time at home alone, just thinking about your relationship. Read books, listen to music, watch movies, get out of the house, etc. …
- Work on something or learn a new skill. As opposed to the previous step, not only does getting a new hobby (or reclaiming an old one) keep you occupied
- Work out. Exercise has been proven to be a mood booster. …
Easier said than done, so take it day by day.
Remember nothing is permanent it’s just what you make of it.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment conceived in holy matrimony. You become not just a couple but they say your souls start aligning with one another, something like the stars.
It’s a bond that is not supposed to be broken and when it does break the house that was once that home crumbles.
Whether you lost your spouse from divorce, illness or accident it’s a troubling time.
A time that only time can heal.
Here are a few suggestions to help you cope and transition from being married to starting over
- See your marriage as having had a purpose in your life that has run its course; make a list of what you’ve learned, how you’ve grown from the experience
- Acknowledge a mixture of contradicting emotions and allow yourself to feel each one, e.g., anger, loss, sadness, guilt, relief, failure, abandonment, fear and liberation.
- Monitor the duration of these emotions which may indicate serious symptoms of depression; contact a professional healthcare provider if the
- feelings worsen over several weeks and months, affecting your ability …
Moving on from employment
Lastly, employment is hard to come by these days.
Many millennials aren’t staying at their place of employment longer than 5 years.
Jobs are going out as fast as they are coming in.
We have new entrepreneurs as well as new jobs.
So what do you do when you find that your job is no longer suiting your needs or maybe with the inflation of our nation you lose your employment you have been at for 10 years or more.
How do you survive the loss of your job?
From forbes.com 12 Healthy Ways To Move On After A Job Loss Or Demotion (forbes.com)
One of my favorites; #12
Take Yourself Back Several Roles
To regain confidence to start again after a job loss or demotion, it can be useful to take yourself back to several roles and/or employers. Focus on what you achieved in those roles. Reconnect with colleagues. Talk about great shared experiences where you had an impact. It’s a great reminder that the current situation is not the sum of who you are or the experience you bring.
– Faith Fuqua-Purvis, Synergetic
Solutions Consulting LLC
Remember letting go is a life lesson; You learn, You love, You see, You grow.
And that my friend is what matters the most.
This post was written by Lauren K., and published by Convenient Counseling Services.
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