Is it just me..
Is it just me or is there a revolving stigma on when we should have this timeline of life figured out?
Are we wrong for wanting to put our careers first and strive for money and financial success?
Maybe you’re planning to become financially stable before starting a family.
When we are young we dream of our future, we play that silly game MASH to see who we will marry and how many kids we will have. I mean I was pretty convinced.
Have you ever been on vacation and seen a sign that says OPEN for palm readings?
We all day dream of where we will be at a specific age but let’s face it no one knows till you actually get there, It’s all in God’s plan.
That’s just it!
What if every birthday year you say “This is it, this is my year!” and it never happens?
Date after date and changing your profile picture to a sexier you a newer you.
Who says we need to follow a specific calendar or a specific way of caring for our own lives?
It is our own adventure anyways.
My best friend just turned thirty- four. She is single, no children and has a great career. She has dated in the past and can’t seem to find that Mr.right.
After endless dating apps and dinner dates, new subscriptions and more. When do you call it quits?
If you do call it quits, are you a quitter?
It’s challenging when you come from a family where everyone married young.
Your parents met through mutual friends, married at twenty-three and had their first child at twenty-four. Grandparents celebrated their sixty-fifth wedding anniversary. Met at sixteen years old and passed away minutes apart, what true love.
Here she is living in one of the largest cities in America, where no one talks to one another anymore. Social media is the way to communicate and every single person is buried in their phone!
If you are single and in your thirties…
Do you compare your life to others? Or get down on yourself because everyone you went to high school with on Facebook are either engaged with children or married and have their first home?
Being single and in your thirties is a privilege to the unknown group.
They have not been where you are and they won’t be where you will be.
It’s like the end of the world when you are single and in your thirties.
You may feel you can’t fit in the right group; you’re too old to go to the bars and clubs every night, you haven’t planned the wedding of your dreams nor ever been pregnant.
You’re not technically fitting in the morning Mommy and me gym classes at the YMCA.
How about holiday gatherings thirty and single?
Showing up with you and the rye boat dip, don’t fret.
Life has choices..
So what, you have countless nights at home, alone…
Who doesn’t want to watch Netflix with anyone else other than Fluffy the cat and a good glass of chardonnay.
My point is, if you feel like you have held onto hope, keep it going…
Hope is all you need.
Have an open mentality of meeting someone one day and don’t fear that maybe you’re getting too comfortable being single.
Shed light on yourself, take off some armor and remember it’s okay to feel vulnerable. You know one thing we tend to do is compare past relationships to our new ones. We all like to be liked and feel loved. We just have to get there when it’s our time.
Focus on traveling and meet as many people as you can. It’s true as we get older we see life differently, it is too short and why dwell on it living on someone else’s timeline of opinions.
My best friend found her faith.
She got involved in church and volunteering.
She didn’t just focus on dating and finding “him”.
She focused on making herself happy with the things she loves doing.
She has ambition and she has found her purpose.
Her purpose of living just the way she is.
And that is okay.
This post was written by Lauren K., and published by Convenient Counseling Services.
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