Letting Go of Anger
Do you feel angry all the time and can’t seem to find the reason why?
Maybe you are holding some sort of grudge toward someone or something.
“Breathing is the number one and most effective technique for reducing anger and anxiety quickly.”
It can be frustrating and often you’ll feel bad afterwards, for having been so out of control with your anger.
You may not even know why you feel so angry all the time.
You just know that’s how you feel.
Many people may notice your anger even when you may not.
“This is an exhausting way to live but it can also end up creating huge issues between you and those you love as well as your friends, your co-workers, your boss, and even random people you need to interact with.”
So, where do you start to try and figure out why you feel this way?
A great place to start when trying to gain control over your temper is figuring out the real feeling behind the emotion.
So, the next time you get angry with someone, take a step back and ask yourself, “Why am I so angry?”
What’s really going on here?
Start writing down what you are feeling at the specific moment.
Do you feel safe?
Are you arguing daily?
Do you feel frustrated and how do you feel when you feel frustrated?
Taken from Life with confidence, this was an excellent point given;
“Something to watch out for when you are angry is that you could be feeling powerless in one situation and it will cause you to react with anger at anyone who upsets you.”
For example, say you have a health issue and you’re feeling frustrated because you can’t get in to see the specialist.
You would most likely also feel powerless in this situation as well as probably scared and frustrated.
You would most likely lash out to the next person that may come off irritating.
It’s that feeling of powerlessness in the back of your mind and you need a way to release that so as soon as someone or something annoys you, all your pent up feelings are vented on that person.
They may have absolutely nothing to do with why you’re feeling powerless.
They’re simply a handy way to release all those negative feelings you’ve bottled up.
So, if you find yourself overreacting to situations, check and see if you’re feeling powerless in a different situation.
Again, you’re figuring out where your real anger is coming from.
Anger is not always something that always needs to be cured, anger is a human emotion that for many people just needs to be monitored and controlled.
Here are some ways to calm your nervous system down.
- Think before you speak
- Once you’re calm, express your concerns
- Get some exercise
- Take a timeout
- Identify possible solutions
- Stick with ‘I’ statements
- Don’t hold a grudge
- Practice relaxation skills
- Know when to seek help
This post was written by Lauren K., and published by Convenient Counseling Services.
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