I never handled stress very well.
I am a high strung individual.
Mind going a million miles a minute, brain trying to process 5 things at once while still standing with a smile.
If this is you, then we can relate.
Frustration can get to the best of us.
It is when we feel an overwhelming feeling of being annoyed or being upset with something, especially when we have the inability to change or achieve that specific something.
Feeling of frustration can lead to anger, outburst, sadness, anxiety and isolation.
Some ways you can handle your frustration and improve your mental intelligence are;
- Regulate yourself during moments of frustration and wait for an appropriate moment to express yourself, take baby steps to do this for yourself, and when you do acknowledge it.
- Practice empathy for others around you, especially people who tend to frustrate you the most.
- Remember that all our emotions are real but the way we express them is important.
- Noticing your feelings is important before the actions change, this way you will be able to act appropriately in the right situation.
I have realized when I get frustrated in a situation I just have to walk away.
Remove myself from the situation and leave.
It is ok to give yourself a “time out.”
Ways to handle frustration
- Breathing exercises
- Meditation practice
- Yoga
- Communications skills
- Emotional and/or physical techniques to release frustration
- Physical exercise
- Relaxation activities
- Travel
- Taking up a hobby or pastime
- Cognitive restructuring
We are pushed and pulled everyday with being parents, working full time, caregivers and all the above.
Do you ever get frustrated with your children?
Maybe they just simply don’t listen to you, they act out, misbehave, give you a hard time eating their dinner or even going to bed?
From the Big Life journal, I read that it has helped me and my parenting:
#1. Accept them for who they are at this moment in their life, rather than who we expect them to be.
All children are different, even if our first was an angel and the second or third are completely the opposite, don’t compare the two.
- Tell them from the start that you will love them and repeat this all the time even in the bad moments
- Be awake to who they are, what they are feeling and what they are interested in
- A great way to connect with your child is via their love language it can make them feel important
#2. Allow your emotions
- Accept all your feelings and validate them
- When a string of bad feeling arises, observe it and then pause and take a breath
- Use the practice below
S- Stop what you are doing
T-Take a few deep breaths
O- Observe your present thought and feelings as they are
P- Proceed with whatever you were doing prior
#3. Apply Growth mindset to you parenting
- No one is born to know how to be a parent
- When things seem too difficult, remember the feeling of things being hard is the feeling of your brain growing
- We are not perfect and their is no such thing as a perfect parent
Read more from The Big Life Journal
Frustration can approach our lives at any time, remember techniques that can help you get through the anger.
You are stronger than the frustration, that feeling that overcomes you.
Just remember to STOP` breath & remove.
This post was written by Lauren K., and published by Convenient Counseling Services.
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