bro·ken-heart·ed
[ˌbrōkənˈhärdəd]
ADJECTIVE
1. overwhelmed by grief or disappointment: “the woman they left behind is broken-hearted”
Have you ever experienced a broken heart?
There are endless feelings for the broken heart.
No one likes to feel broken or sad but it inevitable it will happen at some point of your life.
How can we endure and heal from the brokenness?
Ways to help heal
- Take time to grieve
- Make a list of what you like about yourself
- Find a new source of joy
- Express your needs to others
- Allow emotions to flow. Letting out your emotions.
Write down what you need (aka the ‘notecard method’)
How it works:
- Sit down and make a list of what you need, including needs for tangible and emotional support. This could involve mowing the grass, grocery shopping, or simply talking on the phone.
- Get a stack of notecards and write down one item on each card.
- When people ask how they can help, hand them a note card or have them choose something they feel they can do. This relieves the pressure to articulate your needs on the spot when someone asks.
I’ve endured the pain of a broken heart, the easy way out is to self medicate with numbing the pain with alcohol or maybe even indulging in over eating. When we can take time to grieve the pain and accept it we can start healing from the brokenness.
If I could give one word of advice to anyone that is healing from a broken heart it would be;
“Don’t let your feelings overpower you.”
It will eventually turn into anger and will slow down your process.
Appreciate the good memories, memories do last a lifetime and we are all wired to remember.
Place those empty feelings into happy thoughts that once made you smile.
When we are sad and in a state of sadness when we change the emotion into laughing or a smile we tend to feel that we’re “NOT ALLOWED ” to feel that way in a time of brokenness.
I say NOT TRUE, it will be hard to do but with small effort I can almost promise it can help change the way you feel and look upon the situation.
When moving forward and starting to feel better don’t leave room for guilt in your life, unfortunately the odds of feeling a broken heart may come again at some point of your life. But if that time does come, you will know how to overcome and help yourself heal through the process, not let the brokenness break you!
This post was written by Lauren K., and published by Convenient Counseling Services.
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